Cup Cakes

Life doesn't give us delicious cup cakes directly, It makes us to bake the recipe.

Intuitions

When you believe god is with you, Listen to your intuitions . Those are actually the voice of god. Things will definitely work for you when you hear those and if you don't you cant taste the success. It looks like risk,But take the risk, Its better to act on those rather being idle.

Quantum Love

This is an amazing topic which has been in my mind since a long time and I assure you people who read this post that it won’t be very boring science lecture stuff. As the topic contains the word ‘Quantum’ you people can think that it is about quantum physics or quantum mechanics, but as the topic also contains the word ‘Love’ it is purely a youthful concept. Suddenly after hearing the word love some sort of a beautiful feel or memory come and stick in to our mind and heart filled with some special person, this is a stimulus event that can’t be stopped and no one in this world is an exception for this. I am neither a theoretical physicist nor an anthropologist to speak about Quantum physics and love, I am an engineer that too I am not a mechanical engineer with the knowledge of quantum mechanics but this topic will affect all the normal people who has the ability to love, so I am obliged to discuss this topic.

When you search in the web you can find some articles in the same topic but I assure u that this will be a totally different perspective of what any other would have thought about it. When I was thinking the abstract concept of it I never had this title for this article but when I finished the article the very apt topic came in to mind that is Quantum Love.

The Keyword- Quantum

Before we discuss the core concept of this article I have to clarify and discuss the main two keywords Quantum and Love. You people can find a lot of scientific articles about Quantum physics and Quantum mechanics but I will explain it for you people, with the little knowledge I have on it. This quantum area of science mainly deals with the finite indivisible matter of the whole universe that is sub-atomic particles, which have a very specific behaviors and that lead to some useful studies and theories called quantum physics or quantum mechanics. At our school level we have studied about this and I don’t want to go more deep on it but this two theories that are familiar to us is very important for our discussion, They are ‘Dual nature of the particle‘ and ‘Superposition principle’. As a computer science engineer, I feel this (Quantum Theory) is a very important discovery because in future this ‘Quantum’ would be a buzz word in the computer industry with the evolution of quantum computing and quantum cryptography.

The Keyword- Love

The next keyword we are going to discuss about is ‘Love’ and there is no need for giving much introduction about this topic I guess, But as a fan of Helen Fisher a famous anthropologist and human behavior researcher who wrote a book called ‘why him why her’ which tells why we choose one person rather than the other, I love to share some points on this keyword. We live for love, kill for love and die for love. This love is not about showing it to any other people in this world but it is about showing to a very particular special person that you choose in your life among the large amount of equally attractive alternatives. We usually consider the person as a ‘Special Meaning’ in our life but considering the quote George Bernard Shaw said about it “Love consists of overestimation of the one woman with the other” it can be thought as a cloying blooper, but is it really a blooper? The answer is unknown until we find our mutual feelings. So the mutual feelings are important in love if that is absent then one among the heart is devastated, Suicides are more common in love because this failure is the immense pain that our heart cannot consume. This is a great wonder, how we can consider of losing our life for a person we meet a few ages back rather than for our parents or siblings. A shot definition of love can be ‘Intense craving to be with one person, not only sexually but emotionally’. In the anthropological perspective Dopamine (A compound present in the body as a neurotransmitter) is the cause for the romantic love and our brain has three centers which are responsible for falling in the love. These centers are,

• Lust drive
• Romantic drive
• Attachment

The initial stage starts with the lust in which we see all the persons with the purpose of fulfilling hormonal attractions but that transforms to romantic drive control when we see the person of our soul and the romantic drive endures with the attachment, which is the center of brain which keeps people together for a long time besides the differences in characters and ego stuff etc. This sounds crazy but finding of the person related to our soul is like finding our bike or car in a parking where there are lot of similar model vehicles like ours will be parked but we know for sure which one is ours. There may be lot of equally attractive or better people we have met in our life but we will find that special person in our life and they will be the most beautiful person on the universe for us. This happens in a moment’s spark and we call it as love at first sight, I believe it a lot because I have felt it like a wonderful happening.

love at first sight

Really this love at first sight is a crazy thing and the need is a lot of courage to succeed in it. We won’t know anything about this person in our life till that magical moment but after that our whole focus would shift to that person. That person may or may not be attracted to us but our mind starts hallucinating a lot and it will be like building the castles in air because we don’t know what the feeling on the other side is. We would be feeling both joy and stress if that person is around us but we can’t be connected to the beautiful eyes of them. Another problem would be to communicate with them, we can talk to any person of the opposite sex even to the people around that special person but we can’t talk to them. Our mind may think a lot and rehearse to speak to that person but when they are near, millions of words the languages may have but the right ‘one word’ may not fall in to our mind to start the conversation with our special person. Mitigating this conversation inertia is a very tough one but if we are done with it then we may find the way to love. “If the cues are from the incredibly beautiful eyes that we would love to stare for our whole life time, then it is hard to interpret and understand” as my last post says that person may have seen anywhere but we always think that they are looking at us and it would be very hard to understand the cues from their eyes or gestures. Sometimes we hate ourselves because we are slow to react for the cues and we are always feared of the fallacies. One thing feels supernatural that is the moment when our eyes meet accidentally but our heart does not convince by the word ‘accidental’ it always wants it to be ‘purposeful’. This love at first sight is also a thrill because we won’t get attracted to the people because they are from the same socio-economic background or same general level of intelligence stuff etc. It happens with lot of difference among people like caste, religion, language, culture and age but the magic happens and makes us to care a lot about that special person among the lot of differences between stuff. I love the movie Vinnaithaandi Varuvaayaa directed by Gautham Menon which has been made in languages to languages (Ye Maaya Chesave and Ek Deewana Tha) for its perfect love. The one dialogue from that movie was a classy one which explains the love and attraction, the hero asks the heroine about why she has not fall for anyone’s proposal before and the heroine’s reply goes like this “They have not seen from your eyes”. This explains a lot about how a person looks so much attractive to the only special eyes of their soul mate and fall for them. The coolest thing in love is when you are asked for the reason ‘why you love?’ there are two things for the answer one is ‘No Reason’ and the other is ‘The idiotic –lost in love romantic smile’. Everything which has the ‘coolest’ attribute also has the ‘saddest’, it happens when one choose to end the relationship and the other has no choice but only to quit and forget.

Quantum Love Laws

There can be so much to talk about this very special topic love but finally I have to explain my concept of ‘Quantum Love’ so we can go in to that directly without much hustle. In this new approach to define love analogous with the quantum theory I have to use some laws of quantum theory, so please bear with me but I won’t drag or brag much about the science theories and I would keep it as simple as that can be. The first law I would like to take and relate is ‘The elementary particles behave both like particles and like waves’. An apposite statement for this law in love is mostly related with girls, who are in love

Quantum Love Law 1: The ‘state of mind’ can be in both ‘Want’ and ‘Not Want’ mode.

If we like to take an example an appropriate one is the iconic character of Jessie in the movie Vinnaithaandi Varuvaayaa, we can’t include the Jessie from the Telugu version of the movie because the climax of that version is different so I am only considering the movie’s Tamil version Jessie. Her heart wants to be with the hero but she can’t take decision against her social attachments, so she would be in the mental state of both ‘Want him’ and ‘Don’t want him’. This mental state thing cannot be pushed completely on all girls but ‘mostly’ would be an apt word to take in for consideration, sometimes some men can also be included in this category.

The next law I would like to take into consideration is ‘The movement of elementary particles is inherently random’ and the equivalent law of love would be,

Quantum Love Law 2: The actions of the persons who are madly in love are inherently random.

This love makes us to look idiotic sometimes by tempting us to do some random gestures when our beloved person is around us with so many others, we try to get their attention but for others we would be an idiot. Nothing matters for love as said by the quote ‘All is fair in love and war’ we won’t care what others think if we are mutually and deeply in love. Then the other random action is smile, which we suddenly get when the memories of the beloved person is flashed in our mind. The memory may be related to sudden eye contact or some comic moment involved with that person, they get flashed in to our mind randomly and the result is a smile on our face. It happens mostly when we are alone but when we are more deeply involved it may happen at any moment with lots of people around us and again it makes us to look idiotic. There are much more actions and events that happen inherently random, only when we are in love.

The next law is ‘It is physically impossible to know both the position and the momentum of a particle at the same time. The more precisely one is known, the less precise the measurement of the other is’ and equivalent for it is,

Quantum Love Law 3: It is impossible to measure Love and Attraction at the same time. The more precisely one is known, the less precise the measurement of the other is

We get attracted to each other and fall deeply in love with each other, this is the scenario of love and in this we cannot measure ‘how much we are attracted to each other?’ or ‘how much we are deeply in love?’ trying to measure any one thing will make the other invalid. When I think about measuring the love an interesting incident comes to my mind, an engineering guy was madly in love with an industrial chemist and one fine day she asked that guy “how much you love me?” Usually when girls asks such kind of question there is always a big expectation which is hidden in there, so the guy thought to impress his industrial chemist girl friend and prepared an answer like this “Do you know how much molecules of oxygen you have inhaled after I proposed you?, that much I love you”. Love is truly crazy and it makes us to think such kind of stuff, I don’t know how the chemist girl felt after hearing these words but I hope one day I will find answers with the special person on my side.

The next law is ‘The atomic world is nothing like the world we live in’ and the equivalent for it is,

Quantum Love Law 4: The romantic world differ the world we live in

When we are in love we are criticized to be living in a different word, which is because of our strange behaviors in the midst of people who care about us like friends, parents, siblings or any other relatives. We won’t feel hunger, we can’t sleep well, we would be always on call or msg chat in cell phone and we don’t like to talk much to others etc. When people try to change us by advising, we won’t care to put anything on our ears. When we are in love the real world is actually blurred out and we would be alone in the romantic world with our beloved person, it feels like being in the zero gravity fields. If you ask for much description about the romantic world, I don’t have answer because I have not been in to it much deeply.

Superposition of Love

We are done with the quantum laws and finally I would like to finish the article with the comparison of love with a famous thought experiment called ‘Schrödinger’s Cat’ which illustrates the problem of Copenhagen interpretation of quantum mechanics applied to everyday objects. This is the thing which inspired me to write such an article combining quantum physics and love. This would have definitely influenced every single person in their life. To understand my perspective, first everyone should have understood the ‘Schrödinger’s Cat’. It is a very simple and famous experiment involving the concept of superposition; I will try to explain in a short while. Schrödinger tried to put a cat in a box with some poison, radioactive material and a Geiger counter. When we put all these in a box and watch it from outside either one of the thing will happen, the radioactive material starts to decay which can trigger the poison and the cat will die or nothing will happen so the cat lives. According to quantum mechanical interpretation before we open and look, the cat is in superposition. That is the cat is in both the position of dead and alive before we look in. Our active looking forces nature’s decision, so our curiosity kills the cat. This collapsing to one reality problem is one of the biggest unanswered questions in quantum physics.

Now we can see how this is related to our love life especially for the concept of love at first sight. We are attracted to some person in life and we crave to be in love with them but at that moment we don’t know whether ‘They are also attracted to us’, ‘They are free to be booked’, ‘They are already booked by someone else’, or ‘Married to someone else’ so until we approach them and find answers the unresolved state may be considered to the state of superposition. Finally when we approach them they may be free or already booked so our curiosity and waiting may end the possibility of the relationship. This collapsing to one possibility problem can be considered as one of the biggest unanswered questions in quantum love.

Finally I think I have made some justification to the topic ‘Quantum Love’. It was my long time dream to write an article with my own knowledge, research, understanding and originality. This is something special because we all are made up of atoms at the finer level of granularity and I have related the undetermined human feel called love with the same atoms and its behavior. I always remember that ‘Incredible Eyes’ that inspires me throughout this article.

Incredible eyes

"If the cues are from the incredibly beautiful eyes that u would love to stare for your whole life time, its really hard to interpret and understand."

The choice saga

Being born as a human being we are born with wishes, Might not be true but the first thing we crave for is ‘to cry’ in the sense to communicate with this world as an alien from the womb that ‘I am here’. As we grow up, our whishes also start to grow with ice-creams and colorful balloons to the Attractions of Opposite Sex. Though the retrospective view of all our wish accomplishment attempts contains the traces of our awful stupidity like rolling down the floors and streets, grimace and cry to make our parents buy ice-creams while we still having severe cold, but the time we really feel our stupidity will come with the embarrassing attractions. Every one of us in life must have overcome these attractions even though we try to dodge with fate. Till now I have meant the term attraction relating only to the effects of testosterone and estrogen, it have both the positive and negative effects in life but all the effects is directly connected to the person we choose in life or to the person we get attracted.

Basically the attraction is a broad spectrum to deal which is directly connected to our every wish, before we discuss that we have to understand the evolution of wishes. Wishes arise with the source of feeling for need. Our state of heart initially starts with a vacuum that is desire for nothing; if we can control the state of vacuum then we would be evolved to super human which can be compared to true saints (now a days there is a need to differentiate saints and true saints). Which is possible, only if we can cross or reach the Self-Actualization level or needs which can be compared to the need stated by Abraham Maslow in his Hierarchy of Needs model. So this vacuum is always tempted by needs to get it filled and the source for this reflex is attraction which is perceived by the sensors that is our 6 senses. This process has its own gestation period for every whish accomplishment according to their severity, so the wish takes its forms desire and aspiration. Normal wish turns to desire and that to most enduring aspiration.

Focusing on the right things and filtering the productive wishes is the difficult thing for us do but being born as human and having the sixth sense for the morality we have to achieve this thing. Our life is filled with lot of options at every single moment or instance of time and choosing the right option needs a lot of rational power.The problem is not only with abundant options available but it is about the options available as doppelgangers, all the options are looking alike and you only has to believe your instincts at certain times for choosing the right one. I have already written about this in one of my previous post titled ‘Rational Being’ which states that “The hardest thing for being a Human Being lies in Bounded Rationality, Pertaining to decisions that have to be made to counter the ethical dilemma in every walk of our life to transform ourselves to a Celestial Being”. Our every decision affects our rest of the life so it becomes very important – ‘our every decision at a moment before’. It holds all the strategically important moment like making career choice, choosing friends, soul mate, interests, hobbies etc. The decisions not only affects us but our next generation and our peers, just imagine you are a peer to a drunken citizen travelling in a bus by your adjacent seat or a smoker who smokes by your side in a public area, you can feel those persons hatred unless you are prone to those habits.

In the current world it becomes tougher because of the increased choices which are available due to the development of science and technology. With more luxury come more sins, really the probability of doing sins has increased in the choices available today at a single moment of our life. For example, in the yesteryear people have to go out and search the brothels to commit adultery but the greatest gifts of technology started with audio/video recording devices to the greatest gift internet which all derived a new sin called pornography which is filled in the choices at every moment of life. With much more advancement of technology which are at the whiskers of popularity called smart phones and tablet computers the probability would increase much more. In my value education course I have learnt that even one being lazy or procrastinating are considered to be sinning against god, with the evolution of social networking and facebooking no one can stand apart from that. Even an another interesting thing about facebooking comes in to my mind which is a fact that I came across while a read, ‘A person in facebook is exposed to all the happy like moments of his peers through their photo album updates and wall updates though they are actually not, which makes that person depressed unnecessarily and restricting to live their own moment’.From somewhere i am hearing the term blogging but if someone wants to ask its effects to me, my answer is "Shhhhh...!!! no clue buddy !!".

I am not blaming the science and technology and I won’t, being a Bachelor of Technology. But I am realizing how hard it is to become a celestial being by enduring in this current world. I am not a quintessential person and I don’t have the ability to judge how good or bad I am or the decisions that I make. One thing I can be sure of, it is by being with god and by living this moment right every time I can make a difference,I can get the ability of being a good rational being and can make a better community starting from me.

I Quit

We are not supposed to say 'I Quit' in the middle of an assignment, If we can't look forward for the fruit or excitement but always remember that our hard work and determination had the authority from the start of our assignment and it will bear the fruit and excite us only by our endurance on it.

Nap

10 minutes of nap would also wonderful in life, If we keep out the remembrance of 10^th minute in the 1^st minute of nap.

The Day of Visionary

      This day 15/12/2011 was very special to me in my life while i am doing B-Tech at Karunya University, Which has shown the visionary in me by the grace of God.The day was started as usual as any other day in my life like getting up very late in the morning and rushing up at the critical time to get to the university on time for the morning assembly to save my attendance for the morning session. It was combined assembly filled with all the 5000+ students except the 1st years due to the presence of the chancellor in the university.The message given by him 'How to love other people especially our neighbors, more than loving our-self to please god?' was wonderful and moved my heart. Then i went to class with friends and was about to start my project work, At that moment suddenly one of our faculty called me and said that i have to attend a meeting with our registrar in her conference hall representing our department and i was little puzzled at that time because i left my class representative post a long ago and i am no longer delegating that job also but i have got to go.

      First i went alone and i was little embarrassed about it because i was all alone but later some of other coordinators and representatives from my department joined me. After some ages spending at the reception of administrative block the final year people representatives from all departments were called in to the conference hall after our juniors left the hall. Until that moment i have no idea about what i am going to discuss inside except the few hints given by a mechanical friend of mine that we are going to discuss about the problems we are facing with the current academic policies followed at our university.As we went inside i was surprised to see all the important officials of our university like The chancellor,vice chancellor,registrar,students director and trustee who involved in academic board. Yet an another embarrassing moment awaited me because i was the first person to get in there so i have to occupy the seats which are more close to the officials and my position was like face to face with the chancellor, oh my god. Then we were asked to introduce ourselves to our chancellor with our placement details and i made that with little bit excitement as i got an opportunity to meet our chancellor and thank god i got placement already.

      The meeting started and we were expected to give our suggestions regarding any change that we are expect to have in the current academic policy.My mechanical friend started first and he was thanking chancellor for the change that was made in their department syllabus as the effect of the last meeting and they went on discussing about current placement, and at that moment i got an idea or a vision in my mind about starting a new academic club. I have not gained that courage mentally to start the conversation about my idea but a small battle was going on between my mind and heart within me to get the courage. Suddenly a second of silence, and our chancellor called out my name and said 'Vignesh, tell me?' on seeing my face,ohh god at that moment i thought 'He must be a true men of god or he must be a great psychiatrist'. Thank god i got the courage and i started to tell my idea of creating a Software and Project Development Club which fosters the entrepreneurial skills and creativity of students which can act as 'incubators of innovation' with the inter disciplinary collaboration for our university students. Our chancellor appreciated me and there were mixed comments from all the officials like vice chancellor and registrar even it may take some long ages for the implementation, But i have sowed the seed for it now by the pure grace of god and i am happy for it because i realized the visionary within me.

      The other funny part i learned from this meeting is we should not forget our blazer for a meeting like this and i was literally shivering by the cold breeze from the air conditioner in the conference hall.In this matter our juniors were more thoughtful as they all wore their blazers but we seniors were not and our fate was to bear the terrible cold until we get out.

Courage

Life will always be better if we don't have courage to do 'Something NEW', But it would not be 'The BEST' which you have lived.

தனி வழி

அரசமரத்தடி பிள்ளையார் முதல் ஏழுமலையன் வரை
காஸ்ட்லி ஆகிவிட்ட கடவுளை காண தனி வழி,
இறைவனுக்கு கூட ஒதுக்க நேரம் இல்லாமல்
கரன்சி இட்டும் மனிதர்களுக்கான மோட்ச வழி,
பாவப்பட்ட சாமான்யர்களுக்கு உண்டு பொது வழி
அதுவும் இடைவெளியல் இடை நுழைக்கும் போட்டி வழி.
கோவிலின் கோபுரங்களில் வசிக்கும் மாடபுறாக்கள்
இறைவனை தரிசிக்க, இல்லை தடை வழி. ஆனால்,
யாருடைய குறைகளை முதலில் தீர்க்க வேண்டும் என்று கடவுளுக்கே
ப்ரயொரிட்டி ஒதுக்கும் மனிதர்கள் வாழும் இந்த உலகில்
இறைவனை சென்றடைய என்ன வழி?

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Rational Being

The hardest thing for being a Human Being lies in Bounded Rationality, Pertaining to decisions that have to be made to counter the ethical dilemma in every walk of our life to transform ourselves to a Celestial Being.

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Whispers

My whispers could also be heared to world when i do in social network.But the irony in it is, it never reaches the intended.

Spiritualism

Spiritualism endures with the perfection of righteous living, And i dont belive
in the religion and caste other than faith in God.

இவை மாறும்

'இவை மாறும்' என்னும் மாறா நம்பிக்கை
ஒன்று மட்டும் தான்,
எனது வாழ்கையை முன்னோக்கி பார்க்க தூண்டுகிறது.

Future

"We can count the number of seeds in an apple,but
not the number of apples in a seed.."
Future is always unpredictable...
Live the Present up to u r best..!!!

I love and miss u ...♥♥♥

We had spend the clock hovering...
We had some noon naps blabbering...
We had group night outs fearing...
We poised in mid of fun and febrile...
We always thought u would be plenteous....
Finally u receded to vacuous too abruptly !!???

"I love and miss u beautiful study holidays...♥♥♥"

YESTERDAY AND TODAY

"Never Let Yesterday Use Up Your Today"

Experience The Life

"Nothing in this world is going to be permanent with u ...
till u r life..
except the 'Experience'...."

The Best 50 Amorous things to do with your Ardent Devotee

1. Watch the sunset together.

2. Whisper to each other.

3. Cook for each other.

4. Walk in the rain.

5. Hold hands

6. Buy gifts for each other.

7. Roses.

8. Find out their favorite cologne/perfume and wear it every time you're together.

9. Go for a long walk down the beach at midnight.

10. Write poetry for each other.

11. Hugs are the universal medicine.

12. Say only when you mean it and make sure they know you mean it.

13. Give random gifts of flowers/candy/poetry etc.

14. Tell her that she's the only girl you ever want. Don't lie!

15. Spend every second possible together.

16. Look into each other's eyes.

17. Very lightly push up her chin, look into her eyes, tell her you love her, and kiss her lightly.

18. When in public, only flirt with each other.

19. Put love notes in their pockets when they aren't looking.

20. Buy her a ring.

21. Sing to each other.

22. Always hold her around her hips/sides.

23. Take her to dinner and do the dinner for two deal.

24. Spaghetti? (Ever see Lady and the Tramp?)

25. Hold her hand, stare into her eyes, kiss her hand and then put it over your heart.

26. Dance together.

27. I love the way a girl looks right after she's fallen asleep with her head in my lap.

28. Do cute things like write I love you in a note so that they have to look in a mirror to read it.

29. Make excuses to call them every 5 minutes

30. Even if you are really busy doing something, go out of your way to call and say I love you.

31. Call from your vacation spot to tell them you were thinking about them.

32. Remember your dreams and tell her about them.

34. Tell each other your most sacred secrets/fears.

35. Be Prince Charming to her parents.

36. Brush her hair out of her face for her.

37. Hang out with his/her friends.

38. Go to church/pray/worship together.

39. Take her to see a romantic movie and remember the parts she liked.

40. Learn from each other and don't make the same mistake twice.

41. Describe the joy you feel just to be with him/her.

42. Make sacrifices for each other.

43. Really love each other, or don't stay together.

44. Let there never be a second during any given day that you aren't thinking about them, and make sure they know it.

45. Love yourself before you love anyone else.

46. Learn to say sweet things in foreign languages.

47. Dedicate songs to them on the radio.

48. Fall asleep on the phone with each other.

49. Stand up for them when someone talks trash.

50. Never forget the kiss goodnight and always remember to say, "Sweet dreams.

Confidence in Self

Win the Failures by 'Confidence in Self'
In life we are a normal human beings who are subjected to face failures,i think if we r not exposed to it then the need for GOD in this world is absolutely vacuous and even the proper dominion for living would not be needed.So suddenly this thing ring a bell in to our mind "To stop mourning about failures and how do i re-form my mind...??"...the only answer that could possibly be is 'Improving Self confidence'.

Here are some points to attain that self confidence ,These r not actually my words As i am not worthy to give Psychological advices but its my References from magnum opus of some humanitarian writers.If they are really useful for re-formation of your lives then my blogs motto would be satisfied.

If we are committed to have a healthy self confidence there are many things you can do every day to boost your self confidence, each small steps that will help you to reach your goal. The good news is that self-esteem is not fixed and can be improved, try some of the steps below to boost your confidence and self-esteem.

1) Identify your successes. Everyone is good at something, so discover the things at which you excel, then focus on your talents. Give yourself permission to take pride in them. Give yourself credit for your successes. Inferiority is a state of mind in which you've declared yourself a victim. Do not allow yourself to be victimized.



2) Look in the mirror and smile. Studies surrounding what's called the "facial feedback theory" suggest that the expressions on your face can actually encourage your brain to register certain emotions. So by looking in the mirror and smiling every day, you might feel happier with yourself and more confident in the long run.



3) Exercise and eat healthy. Exercise raises adrenaline and makes one feel happier and healthier. It is certainly an easy and effective way to boost your self-confidence.


4) Turn feelings of envy or jealousy into a desire to achieve. Stop wanting what others have just because they have it; seek things simply because you want them, whether anybody else has them or not.

5) When you're feeling superbly insecure, write down a list of things that are good about you. Then read the list back. You'd be surprised at what you can come up with.

6) Don't be afraid to push yourself a bit - a little bit of pressure can actually show just how good you are!


7) Try to make yourself talk positively at all times. When you hear yourself saying you can't do something, stop and say you can. Unless you try, you will never know whether you are able to or not.

8) Don't get wrapped up in your mistakes and dwell on bad points; they can contrast your good points or even give you something to improve. There's no feeling like being good at something you were really bad at.

9) Don't confuse what you have with who you are. People degrade their self worth when comparing possessions.

10) Surround yourself with nurturing friends, not overly critical individuals who make you feel inadequate or insecure. This could do great harm and damage to your self confidence.