Quantum Love

This is an amazing topic which has been in my mind since a long time and I assure you people who read this post that it won’t be very boring science lecture stuff. As the topic contains the word ‘Quantum’ you people can think that it is about quantum physics or quantum mechanics, but as the topic also contains the word ‘Love’ it is purely a youthful concept. Suddenly after hearing the word love some sort of a beautiful feel or memory come and stick in to our mind and heart filled with some special person, this is a stimulus event that can’t be stopped and no one in this world is an exception for this. I am neither a theoretical physicist nor an anthropologist to speak about Quantum physics and love, I am an engineer that too I am not a mechanical engineer with the knowledge of quantum mechanics but this topic will affect all the normal people who has the ability to love, so I am obliged to discuss this topic.

When you search in the web you can find some articles in the same topic but I assure u that this will be a totally different perspective of what any other would have thought about it. When I was thinking the abstract concept of it I never had this title for this article but when I finished the article the very apt topic came in to mind that is Quantum Love.

The Keyword- Quantum

Before we discuss the core concept of this article I have to clarify and discuss the main two keywords Quantum and Love. You people can find a lot of scientific articles about Quantum physics and Quantum mechanics but I will explain it for you people, with the little knowledge I have on it. This quantum area of science mainly deals with the finite indivisible matter of the whole universe that is sub-atomic particles, which have a very specific behaviors and that lead to some useful studies and theories called quantum physics or quantum mechanics. At our school level we have studied about this and I don’t want to go more deep on it but this two theories that are familiar to us is very important for our discussion, They are ‘Dual nature of the particle‘ and ‘Superposition principle’. As a computer science engineer, I feel this (Quantum Theory) is a very important discovery because in future this ‘Quantum’ would be a buzz word in the computer industry with the evolution of quantum computing and quantum cryptography.

The Keyword- Love

The next keyword we are going to discuss about is ‘Love’ and there is no need for giving much introduction about this topic I guess, But as a fan of Helen Fisher a famous anthropologist and human behavior researcher who wrote a book called ‘why him why her’ which tells why we choose one person rather than the other, I love to share some points on this keyword. We live for love, kill for love and die for love. This love is not about showing it to any other people in this world but it is about showing to a very particular special person that you choose in your life among the large amount of equally attractive alternatives. We usually consider the person as a ‘Special Meaning’ in our life but considering the quote George Bernard Shaw said about it “Love consists of overestimation of the one woman with the other” it can be thought as a cloying blooper, but is it really a blooper? The answer is unknown until we find our mutual feelings. So the mutual feelings are important in love if that is absent then one among the heart is devastated, Suicides are more common in love because this failure is the immense pain that our heart cannot consume. This is a great wonder, how we can consider of losing our life for a person we meet a few ages back rather than for our parents or siblings. A shot definition of love can be ‘Intense craving to be with one person, not only sexually but emotionally’. In the anthropological perspective Dopamine (A compound present in the body as a neurotransmitter) is the cause for the romantic love and our brain has three centers which are responsible for falling in the love. These centers are,

• Lust drive
• Romantic drive
• Attachment

The initial stage starts with the lust in which we see all the persons with the purpose of fulfilling hormonal attractions but that transforms to romantic drive control when we see the person of our soul and the romantic drive endures with the attachment, which is the center of brain which keeps people together for a long time besides the differences in characters and ego stuff etc. This sounds crazy but finding of the person related to our soul is like finding our bike or car in a parking where there are lot of similar model vehicles like ours will be parked but we know for sure which one is ours. There may be lot of equally attractive or better people we have met in our life but we will find that special person in our life and they will be the most beautiful person on the universe for us. This happens in a moment’s spark and we call it as love at first sight, I believe it a lot because I have felt it like a wonderful happening.

love at first sight

Really this love at first sight is a crazy thing and the need is a lot of courage to succeed in it. We won’t know anything about this person in our life till that magical moment but after that our whole focus would shift to that person. That person may or may not be attracted to us but our mind starts hallucinating a lot and it will be like building the castles in air because we don’t know what the feeling on the other side is. We would be feeling both joy and stress if that person is around us but we can’t be connected to the beautiful eyes of them. Another problem would be to communicate with them, we can talk to any person of the opposite sex even to the people around that special person but we can’t talk to them. Our mind may think a lot and rehearse to speak to that person but when they are near, millions of words the languages may have but the right ‘one word’ may not fall in to our mind to start the conversation with our special person. Mitigating this conversation inertia is a very tough one but if we are done with it then we may find the way to love. “If the cues are from the incredibly beautiful eyes that we would love to stare for our whole life time, then it is hard to interpret and understand” as my last post says that person may have seen anywhere but we always think that they are looking at us and it would be very hard to understand the cues from their eyes or gestures. Sometimes we hate ourselves because we are slow to react for the cues and we are always feared of the fallacies. One thing feels supernatural that is the moment when our eyes meet accidentally but our heart does not convince by the word ‘accidental’ it always wants it to be ‘purposeful’. This love at first sight is also a thrill because we won’t get attracted to the people because they are from the same socio-economic background or same general level of intelligence stuff etc. It happens with lot of difference among people like caste, religion, language, culture and age but the magic happens and makes us to care a lot about that special person among the lot of differences between stuff. I love the movie Vinnaithaandi Varuvaayaa directed by Gautham Menon which has been made in languages to languages (Ye Maaya Chesave and Ek Deewana Tha) for its perfect love. The one dialogue from that movie was a classy one which explains the love and attraction, the hero asks the heroine about why she has not fall for anyone’s proposal before and the heroine’s reply goes like this “They have not seen from your eyes”. This explains a lot about how a person looks so much attractive to the only special eyes of their soul mate and fall for them. The coolest thing in love is when you are asked for the reason ‘why you love?’ there are two things for the answer one is ‘No Reason’ and the other is ‘The idiotic –lost in love romantic smile’. Everything which has the ‘coolest’ attribute also has the ‘saddest’, it happens when one choose to end the relationship and the other has no choice but only to quit and forget.

Quantum Love Laws

There can be so much to talk about this very special topic love but finally I have to explain my concept of ‘Quantum Love’ so we can go in to that directly without much hustle. In this new approach to define love analogous with the quantum theory I have to use some laws of quantum theory, so please bear with me but I won’t drag or brag much about the science theories and I would keep it as simple as that can be. The first law I would like to take and relate is ‘The elementary particles behave both like particles and like waves’. An apposite statement for this law in love is mostly related with girls, who are in love

Quantum Love Law 1: The ‘state of mind’ can be in both ‘Want’ and ‘Not Want’ mode.

If we like to take an example an appropriate one is the iconic character of Jessie in the movie Vinnaithaandi Varuvaayaa, we can’t include the Jessie from the Telugu version of the movie because the climax of that version is different so I am only considering the movie’s Tamil version Jessie. Her heart wants to be with the hero but she can’t take decision against her social attachments, so she would be in the mental state of both ‘Want him’ and ‘Don’t want him’. This mental state thing cannot be pushed completely on all girls but ‘mostly’ would be an apt word to take in for consideration, sometimes some men can also be included in this category.

The next law I would like to take into consideration is ‘The movement of elementary particles is inherently random’ and the equivalent law of love would be,

Quantum Love Law 2: The actions of the persons who are madly in love are inherently random.

This love makes us to look idiotic sometimes by tempting us to do some random gestures when our beloved person is around us with so many others, we try to get their attention but for others we would be an idiot. Nothing matters for love as said by the quote ‘All is fair in love and war’ we won’t care what others think if we are mutually and deeply in love. Then the other random action is smile, which we suddenly get when the memories of the beloved person is flashed in our mind. The memory may be related to sudden eye contact or some comic moment involved with that person, they get flashed in to our mind randomly and the result is a smile on our face. It happens mostly when we are alone but when we are more deeply involved it may happen at any moment with lots of people around us and again it makes us to look idiotic. There are much more actions and events that happen inherently random, only when we are in love.

The next law is ‘It is physically impossible to know both the position and the momentum of a particle at the same time. The more precisely one is known, the less precise the measurement of the other is’ and equivalent for it is,

Quantum Love Law 3: It is impossible to measure Love and Attraction at the same time. The more precisely one is known, the less precise the measurement of the other is

We get attracted to each other and fall deeply in love with each other, this is the scenario of love and in this we cannot measure ‘how much we are attracted to each other?’ or ‘how much we are deeply in love?’ trying to measure any one thing will make the other invalid. When I think about measuring the love an interesting incident comes to my mind, an engineering guy was madly in love with an industrial chemist and one fine day she asked that guy “how much you love me?” Usually when girls asks such kind of question there is always a big expectation which is hidden in there, so the guy thought to impress his industrial chemist girl friend and prepared an answer like this “Do you know how much molecules of oxygen you have inhaled after I proposed you?, that much I love you”. Love is truly crazy and it makes us to think such kind of stuff, I don’t know how the chemist girl felt after hearing these words but I hope one day I will find answers with the special person on my side.

The next law is ‘The atomic world is nothing like the world we live in’ and the equivalent for it is,

Quantum Love Law 4: The romantic world differ the world we live in

When we are in love we are criticized to be living in a different word, which is because of our strange behaviors in the midst of people who care about us like friends, parents, siblings or any other relatives. We won’t feel hunger, we can’t sleep well, we would be always on call or msg chat in cell phone and we don’t like to talk much to others etc. When people try to change us by advising, we won’t care to put anything on our ears. When we are in love the real world is actually blurred out and we would be alone in the romantic world with our beloved person, it feels like being in the zero gravity fields. If you ask for much description about the romantic world, I don’t have answer because I have not been in to it much deeply.

Superposition of Love

We are done with the quantum laws and finally I would like to finish the article with the comparison of love with a famous thought experiment called ‘Schrödinger’s Cat’ which illustrates the problem of Copenhagen interpretation of quantum mechanics applied to everyday objects. This is the thing which inspired me to write such an article combining quantum physics and love. This would have definitely influenced every single person in their life. To understand my perspective, first everyone should have understood the ‘Schrödinger’s Cat’. It is a very simple and famous experiment involving the concept of superposition; I will try to explain in a short while. Schrödinger tried to put a cat in a box with some poison, radioactive material and a Geiger counter. When we put all these in a box and watch it from outside either one of the thing will happen, the radioactive material starts to decay which can trigger the poison and the cat will die or nothing will happen so the cat lives. According to quantum mechanical interpretation before we open and look, the cat is in superposition. That is the cat is in both the position of dead and alive before we look in. Our active looking forces nature’s decision, so our curiosity kills the cat. This collapsing to one reality problem is one of the biggest unanswered questions in quantum physics.

Now we can see how this is related to our love life especially for the concept of love at first sight. We are attracted to some person in life and we crave to be in love with them but at that moment we don’t know whether ‘They are also attracted to us’, ‘They are free to be booked’, ‘They are already booked by someone else’, or ‘Married to someone else’ so until we approach them and find answers the unresolved state may be considered to the state of superposition. Finally when we approach them they may be free or already booked so our curiosity and waiting may end the possibility of the relationship. This collapsing to one possibility problem can be considered as one of the biggest unanswered questions in quantum love.

Finally I think I have made some justification to the topic ‘Quantum Love’. It was my long time dream to write an article with my own knowledge, research, understanding and originality. This is something special because we all are made up of atoms at the finer level of granularity and I have related the undetermined human feel called love with the same atoms and its behavior. I always remember that ‘Incredible Eyes’ that inspires me throughout this article.